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Up Your PR : How To PR For Career & Business Success

PR Expert Dean Shams shared about how you can “Up Your PR” at the 2017 Up Your Game Conference.

Specific tips and techniques if you wish to expand your sphere of influence.

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Watch “Jeremy Pillai & Pratibha Rai | Dealing With Challenges In Relationships: Up Your Game Feb’18 Edition” on YouTube

Jeremy & Pratibha share their personal story of beating cancer together as they speak about Dealing with Challenges in Relationships at the February 2018 edition of Up Your Game.

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The New 6 Human Needs

A modern list of 6 human needs as shared by Neuroscientist Nicole Gravagna

This list benefits from nearly 75 years of psychology, neuroscience, and sociology research beyond what was known when Maslow wrote his list.

  1. Food – The body needs calories and a variety of nutrients including protein, fat, and carbohydrates everyday to grow, function, and repair. Without food, the body begins to atrophy.
  2. Water – Ample hydration allows for the processes of the body to occur. Without water the body cannot process food or remove wastes.
  3. Shelter – We require protection from blazing sun, freezing temperatures, wind, and rain. Without shelter, human skin and organs are damaged from extreme temperatures.
  4. Sleep – 6–9 hours of sleep every 24 hours allows the brain to process new knowledge and deal with emotional information. Without ample sleep we cannot learn new things or get past emotional pain.
  5. Others – Adults require connection (physical or emotional) with other humans to release certain hormones like oxytocin. Human touch is so important that when we are young, our brains don’t develop correctly without it. Regular connection to others allows us to maintain a sense of well-being that allows for self-care.
  6. Novelty – Novelty creates the opportunity to learn and the potential to fail, which stimulates dopamine release in the brain. Without regular novelty, motivation wanes and a healthy sense of well-being is lost.

These 6 needs, when met, allow for a person to develop the self-esteem, security, belonging, actualization, and the other expressions of contentedness that Maslow described.

Unfortunately, when people go for a long time without having all 6 of these needs met, it becomes difficult for them to begin to allow for these needs to be met. A person who doesn’t get enough sleep will insist that they can do without. A person who has grown up without deep connection to others will insist that they prefer to live as a loner. Those who have deeply rutted routines will resist change when it is offered to them.

It’s as though humans have a natural protective process that occurs when one of these 6 needs goes unfulfilled. We develop beliefs that we are special, somehow more capable than everyone else, because we can get along without having our needs fulfilled. The truth is that we are often in denial. Every single person on this planet needs food, water, shelter, sleep, others, and novelty on a regular basis to be their best selves.

9 All Purpose Conversation Starters

Ready to use tool kits seem to be all the fuss these days. And why not? There is an infinite volumn of resources out there. Well, seemingly infinite.

Ever got lost on how to get a conversation going or wished for more interesting conversations beyond food, travel and the weather?

Here are 9 all purpose conversation starters to get you going.

  1. What got you to sign up for this?
  2. If your life were a movie, how would you classify it? Thriller, Romance, Comedy? Let’s hear the story.
  3. Who is the most interesting person you have met today/recently? Why?
  4. Have you thought about your ideal retirement?
  5. Are you an urban person or do you prefer the countrysides?
  6. You seem to have great taste in how you dress up. Where do you shop?
  7. Whats your drink?
  8. What were your ambitions growing up?
  9. What are the three values that define you best?

Whats your list? Add in the comments!

Take Ownership For Your Conversations

Having been in the field of communications for over a decade both as a consultant and a speaker, I have met many people with varying proficiencies in communications.

What makes me sympathetic towards some of them though is the closed, almost fortified, approach they have towards their conversations, interactions and dealings with people who could potentially be of great value to them and their businesses.

The basic model of communications involves, traditionally, a sender and a receiver. In this, ideally the sender is successful in delivering the message as intended in the most perfect manner and the receiver is able to receive it as intended without their own personal prejudices or internal blocks and barriers altering it before their minds can accurately process the message.

However, as we know, the world is not perfect. We often do not get the benefit of the ideal. Our approaches, preferences, learnings, experiences, business cultural backgrounds, fluency and a whole lot more differ from person to person.

While one may prefer a more direct yet casual approach to opening conversations, some may prefer a more formal and ‘proper’ approach. I mean Warren Buffet loves his suits while Mark Zuckerberg made his billions in t-shirt and jeans.

The trick really is not in how one has sent their message to you or how you prefer to receive it. The primary rule of relationships is to first be interested in every possibility and connection rather than seeking to be impressed.

No one would know what would be of value or meaning to you better than yourself. So take the opportunity to communicate to find meaning, opportunities, possibilities instead of judging how you are being communicated to and in the process building barriers and discounting potential.

Ask the right questions. If what was communicated was not sufficient, be specific in what other details you require. Be open to share what would be of value to you. Help the sender or receiver to help you create your desired meaning.

By doing so you ensure many more fulfilling and rewarding interactions. You do not need to put yourself on a pedestal waiting to be convinced. Place yourself upon a bridge to actively find connecting points.

Dale Carnegie said “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

Take ownership.

By Rahul Shah

Communications Speaker &

Founder of Up Your Game Community

Up Your Game’s Death Cafe gets Featured in Straits Times Newspaper

Our recent Death Cafe Event got featured in the local Straits Times Newspaper.

Check out the article to find out what UYG Founder Rahul Shah and other attendees had to share about the session.

www.straitstimes.com/singapore/working-up-an-appetite-for-life

Also enjoy the pictures from the event.

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Session 5 : March 2016 Edition – Communicating for Greater Connections (Speaker 2 : Elga Magliocchi, Cross – Cultural Communications)

Meet Speaker No. 2:
Elga Magliocchi
Cross Cultural Communications – Setting Yourself Free

Elga is global citizen in every sense of the way. Born to an Italian father and Colombian mother, she was born and raised in Vanezuela. Her career has taken her from the corporate offices of Japan to the rice fields of Philippines and now the urban city state of Singapore.
Besides English, she is fluent in Italian, Spanish and a bit of Tagalog & Japanese. She watches Bollywood films and dances the African Kizomba as well as the Salsa.

In her sharing, Elga shares with us how we can break free from the shackles of cultural barriers to have more meaningful and deeper connections with those we meet and interact with.

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