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Watch “Soul Conversations with Aarti Sharma Ep. 1”

Up Your Game Community presents thr first ever Soul Conversations with Aarti Sharma as conceptualised by Dose with Grace.

3 guests (Maddie, Eileen Yap & Dr. Vimala) join the first episode with soul conversations facilitator Aarti Sharma for an insightful session where they
discuss everything from motherhood to being in the flow to spirituality.

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The New 6 Human Needs

A modern list of 6 human needs as shared by Neuroscientist Nicole Gravagna

This list benefits from nearly 75 years of psychology, neuroscience, and sociology research beyond what was known when Maslow wrote his list.

  1. Food – The body needs calories and a variety of nutrients including protein, fat, and carbohydrates everyday to grow, function, and repair. Without food, the body begins to atrophy.
  2. Water – Ample hydration allows for the processes of the body to occur. Without water the body cannot process food or remove wastes.
  3. Shelter – We require protection from blazing sun, freezing temperatures, wind, and rain. Without shelter, human skin and organs are damaged from extreme temperatures.
  4. Sleep – 6–9 hours of sleep every 24 hours allows the brain to process new knowledge and deal with emotional information. Without ample sleep we cannot learn new things or get past emotional pain.
  5. Others – Adults require connection (physical or emotional) with other humans to release certain hormones like oxytocin. Human touch is so important that when we are young, our brains don’t develop correctly without it. Regular connection to others allows us to maintain a sense of well-being that allows for self-care.
  6. Novelty – Novelty creates the opportunity to learn and the potential to fail, which stimulates dopamine release in the brain. Without regular novelty, motivation wanes and a healthy sense of well-being is lost.

These 6 needs, when met, allow for a person to develop the self-esteem, security, belonging, actualization, and the other expressions of contentedness that Maslow described.

Unfortunately, when people go for a long time without having all 6 of these needs met, it becomes difficult for them to begin to allow for these needs to be met. A person who doesn’t get enough sleep will insist that they can do without. A person who has grown up without deep connection to others will insist that they prefer to live as a loner. Those who have deeply rutted routines will resist change when it is offered to them.

It’s as though humans have a natural protective process that occurs when one of these 6 needs goes unfulfilled. We develop beliefs that we are special, somehow more capable than everyone else, because we can get along without having our needs fulfilled. The truth is that we are often in denial. Every single person on this planet needs food, water, shelter, sleep, others, and novelty on a regular basis to be their best selves.

Take Ownership For Your Conversations

Having been in the field of communications for over a decade both as a consultant and a speaker, I have met many people with varying proficiencies in communications.

What makes me sympathetic towards some of them though is the closed, almost fortified, approach they have towards their conversations, interactions and dealings with people who could potentially be of great value to them and their businesses.

The basic model of communications involves, traditionally, a sender and a receiver. In this, ideally the sender is successful in delivering the message as intended in the most perfect manner and the receiver is able to receive it as intended without their own personal prejudices or internal blocks and barriers altering it before their minds can accurately process the message.

However, as we know, the world is not perfect. We often do not get the benefit of the ideal. Our approaches, preferences, learnings, experiences, business cultural backgrounds, fluency and a whole lot more differ from person to person.

While one may prefer a more direct yet casual approach to opening conversations, some may prefer a more formal and ‘proper’ approach. I mean Warren Buffet loves his suits while Mark Zuckerberg made his billions in t-shirt and jeans.

The trick really is not in how one has sent their message to you or how you prefer to receive it. The primary rule of relationships is to first be interested in every possibility and connection rather than seeking to be impressed.

No one would know what would be of value or meaning to you better than yourself. So take the opportunity to communicate to find meaning, opportunities, possibilities instead of judging how you are being communicated to and in the process building barriers and discounting potential.

Ask the right questions. If what was communicated was not sufficient, be specific in what other details you require. Be open to share what would be of value to you. Help the sender or receiver to help you create your desired meaning.

By doing so you ensure many more fulfilling and rewarding interactions. You do not need to put yourself on a pedestal waiting to be convinced. Place yourself upon a bridge to actively find connecting points.

Dale Carnegie said “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

Take ownership.

By Rahul Shah

Communications Speaker &

Founder of Up Your Game Community

Up Your Game’s Death Cafe gets Featured in Straits Times Newspaper

Our recent Death Cafe Event got featured in the local Straits Times Newspaper.

Check out the article to find out what UYG Founder Rahul Shah and other attendees had to share about the session.

www.straitstimes.com/singapore/working-up-an-appetite-for-life

Also enjoy the pictures from the event.

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