9 All Purpose Conversation Starters

Ready to use tool kits seem to be all the fuss these days. And why not? There is an infinite volumn of resources out there. Well, seemingly infinite.

Ever got lost on how to get a conversation going or wished for more interesting conversations beyond food, travel and the weather?

Here are 9 all purpose conversation starters to get you going.

  1. What got you to sign up for this?
  2. If your life were a movie, how would you classify it? Thriller, Romance, Comedy? Let’s hear the story.
  3. Who is the most interesting person you have met today/recently? Why?
  4. Have you thought about your ideal retirement?
  5. Are you an urban person or do you prefer the countrysides?
  6. You seem to have great taste in how you dress up. Where do you shop?
  7. Whats your drink?
  8. What were your ambitions growing up?
  9. What are the three values that define you best?

Whats your list? Add in the comments!

Take Ownership For Your Conversations

Having been in the field of communications for over a decade both as a consultant and a speaker, I have met many people with varying proficiencies in communications.

What makes me sympathetic towards some of them though is the closed, almost fortified, approach they have towards their conversations, interactions and dealings with people who could potentially be of great value to them and their businesses.

The basic model of communications involves, traditionally, a sender and a receiver. In this, ideally the sender is successful in delivering the message as intended in the most perfect manner and the receiver is able to receive it as intended without their own personal prejudices or internal blocks and barriers altering it before their minds can accurately process the message.

However, as we know, the world is not perfect. We often do not get the benefit of the ideal. Our approaches, preferences, learnings, experiences, business cultural backgrounds, fluency and a whole lot more differ from person to person.

While one may prefer a more direct yet casual approach to opening conversations, some may prefer a more formal and ‘proper’ approach. I mean Warren Buffet loves his suits while Mark Zuckerberg made his billions in t-shirt and jeans.

The trick really is not in how one has sent their message to you or how you prefer to receive it. The primary rule of relationships is to first be interested in every possibility and connection rather than seeking to be impressed.

No one would know what would be of value or meaning to you better than yourself. So take the opportunity to communicate to find meaning, opportunities, possibilities instead of judging how you are being communicated to and in the process building barriers and discounting potential.

Ask the right questions. If what was communicated was not sufficient, be specific in what other details you require. Be open to share what would be of value to you. Help the sender or receiver to help you create your desired meaning.

By doing so you ensure many more fulfilling and rewarding interactions. You do not need to put yourself on a pedestal waiting to be convinced. Place yourself upon a bridge to actively find connecting points.

Dale Carnegie said “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

Take ownership.

By Rahul Shah

Communications Speaker &

Founder of Up Your Game Community

Up Your Game’s Death Cafe gets Featured in Straits Times Newspaper

Our recent Death Cafe Event got featured in the local Straits Times Newspaper.

Check out the article to find out what UYG Founder Rahul Shah and other attendees had to share about the session.

www.straitstimes.com/singapore/working-up-an-appetite-for-life

Also enjoy the pictures from the event.

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12 Life Lessons from a Man Who Has Seen 12000 Deaths

8. If/When you find your purpose, do something about it
To have awareness about one’s calling is great, but only if you do something about it.

A lot of people, Shukla says, know their purpose but don’t do anything about realising it, making it come to life. Simply sitting on it is worse than not having a calling in the first place. Having a perspective towards your purpose will help you measure the time and effort you need to dedicate to it, while you’re caught up in what you think you can’t let go or escape. Take action on what truly matters.”

Read the full article at:

http://projectfuel.in/blog/2016/05/15/12-life-lessons-from-a-man-who-has-seen-12000-deaths/

Up Your Game 2016 : Inaugural Kuala Lumpur Edition Highlights

We had an amazing inaugural session in Kuala Lumpur Malaysia.
Thank you everyone for making this possible.
Great sharing by our speakers Simon, Coen, Tahira and Sunil.
Fantastic venue courtesy of Delicious@Bangsar Village.
Once again, splendid photography by Vinod Rai Sharma of NIN9 Studios (Singapore).

 

Buddha’s Teaching on How to Settle The Mind 

  

Once Buddha was traveling with a few of his followers.

While they were passing a lake, Buddha told one of his disciples, 

“I am thirsty. Do get me some water from the lake.”

The disciple walked up to the lake. At that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake. As a result, the water became very muddy and turbid.

The disciple thought, 

“How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink?”

So he came back and told Buddha, 

“The water in there is very muddy. 

I don’t think it is fit to drink.”

After about half an hour, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake.

The disciple went back, and found that the water was still muddy.

He returned and informed Buddha about the same.

After sometime, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back.

This time, the disciple found the mud had settled down, and the water was clean and clear.

So he collected some water in a pot and brought it to Buddha.

Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple and said,

“See what you did to make the water clean. 

You let it be, and the mud settled down on its own, and you have clear water.”

Your mind is like that too ! When it is disturbed, 

just let it be. Give it a little time. It will settle down on its own.

You don’t have to put in any effort to calm it down.

It will happen. It is effortless.”

Having ‘Peace of Mind’ is not a strenuous job,

it is an effortless processso keep ur mind cool and have a great life ahead…

Never leave Your close ones.

If you find few faults in them just close Your eyes

‘n Remembr the best time You spent together…

because

Affection is More Important than Perfection..!

Neither you can hug yourself….

nor you can cry on your own shoulder….

Life is all about living for one another, 

so live with those who love you the most…

Relations cannot be Understood by the Language of Money…

Bcoz, Some Investments Never Give Profit But They Make us rich…!

“Family n Friends are such Investments”

Have a Enriched life…..

Session 5 : March 2016 Edition – Communicating for Greater Connections (Speaker 2 : Elga Magliocchi, Cross – Cultural Communications)

Meet Speaker No. 2:
Elga Magliocchi
Cross Cultural Communications – Setting Yourself Free

Elga is global citizen in every sense of the way. Born to an Italian father and Colombian mother, she was born and raised in Vanezuela. Her career has taken her from the corporate offices of Japan to the rice fields of Philippines and now the urban city state of Singapore.
Besides English, she is fluent in Italian, Spanish and a bit of Tagalog & Japanese. She watches Bollywood films and dances the African Kizomba as well as the Salsa.

In her sharing, Elga shares with us how we can break free from the shackles of cultural barriers to have more meaningful and deeper connections with those we meet and interact with.

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